Ask C-Mass

Caden Massey

Hey C-Mass, I have been troubling finding people new friends on
campus. The dorms don’t allow visitors, and the SUB only lets a few
people sit together. How can I make better connections on campus?”

Thanks for writing anonymous reader, I feel like this is a common issue affecting a lot of students on campus right now. The COVID-19 restrictions have definitely put a damper on things. It may seem like there is nothing you can do, but that is not the case!

Yes, the dorms have a strict no visitor policy. Yes, the SUB has very little wiggle room when it comes to sitting with people. One place that has some more leniency is the classroom. I find that most of the friends I have made at LC have been in some of my classes.

While I would never encourage disrupting class so you can get somebody’s Snap-Code, I would encourage you to use your time before and after class to just grab somebody’s attention and introduce yourself.

I know this can seem awkward in front of a large group, so try and use
smaller opportunities to your advantage. Pass somebody in the hall Compliment their shoes. Waiting in line at the vending machine? Say whatever they get from the vending machine is one of your favorites (even if it’s not).

Getting food at the SUB? Tell somebody they dropped their pocket. That is a surefire way to confuse someone and then get a laugh in.

Face to face interaction not your thing? Why not try some virtual opportunities? Maybe ask a classmate to study with you over Zoom or interact with LC’s social media pages.

Students and staff run those pages, so somebody is going to see that
you left a (hopefully) positive comment. That will also help with getting your face out there. Maybe your roommates or people in your dorm will play some video games with you if you ask.

Gaming is always a good way to make friendships. If done correctly, you may even be able to extend from just video games to voice calls, and party chats. Some of my strongest friendships were formed around video games.

Alright, let’s say that these strategies are not working. Now what? The ace up my sleeve, my secret to making friends, a secret technique passed down by the ancients. Go outside. This sounds simple, but I notice a lot of students struggle
with this.

There are plenty of activities and programs on campus that will expose you to others, even in a pandemic. For example, the tutoring centers on campus have a ton of people going in and out, and there are all kinds of people to interact with. Odds are you will find someone with at least some similar interests.

Try events. Some clubs are still having socially distanced events. Plus, most events have either a prize or some form of entertainment. You may even find a club that interests you, which will instantly connect you to other students.

Also, if you bench or want to play doubles, somebody will be forced to help you. That’s a connection right there. Not to mention the front desk students at these places will talk to you as well.

I hope some of my advice was helpful to you, and if you or any other reader have questions for me, please send them to [email protected], or slip them under my door at the SUB.